Oh the joys of raising teenagers! This can be a difficult time in the family dynamic. Teenagers seem to be on a hormonal roller-coaster while parents become frustrated with how the teen responds to authority, responsibility, and in general the choices that they make.
If you’re a parent of a teenager, or even a tween, be prepared for some conflicts to arise. Some of the most common include:
- Curfew, friends, and dating
- teen’s preference of hanging out with other teens vs the family
- homework disputes
- cars and driving privileges
- clothing, hair styles and makeup
- smoking, drinking and using drugs
What can parents do to minimize conflicts at home?
Communication is key, but also responding in a way your child will hear you is the hard part.
Here’s 6 tips:
- "Listen to their point of view, even if it's difficult to hear.
- Let them complete their point before you respond
- Soften strong reactions; kids will tune you out if you appear angry or defensive.
- Express your opinion without putting down theirs; acknowledge that it's okay to disagree.
- Resist arguing about who is right. Instead say, "I know you disagree with me, but this is what I think."
- Focus on your child's feelings rather than your own during your conversation."
How do you communicate with your children? What are your
tips and tricks? Are you nervous about your younger
children becoming teenagers? Share your stories!
Citations:
Image by yellowblade67. (2011). License: Attribution 2.0 Generic. Retrieved from http://www.flickr.com/photos/33427671@N06/3181262184/sizes/m/in/photostream/
American Psychological Association. (2011). Parenting: Theteen years. Retrieved from http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/
American Psychological Association. (2011). Communication Tips for Parents. Retrieved from http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/
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